The Man List: How I Manifested the Love I Thought I’d Lost
And how getting clear helped me find the right person… who was there all along.

If you’d told me a few years ago that the man of my dreams would turn out to be someone from my past… my ex and the father of my child… I would’ve laughed. Back then, we were on different paths, carrying our own hurts and healing in very different ways. We had love, yes, it was equal because of our son yet clouded by confusion, pain, and misalignment.

And yet, something shifted when I discovered something called The Man List, a powerful little exercise that helped me see what I truly wanted in a partner… and more importantly who I was becoming myself.

This blog is about that moment. The moment I realised the love I’d been searching for wasn’t lost, it was just waiting for us both to grow.

A Pattern I Was Ready to Break
Throughout my life, I’d found myself in relationships that didn’t feel quite right. People who didn’t match my energy. People who couldn’t meet me in my vulnerability. People who weren’t ready or willing to grow alongside me.

Each relationship left behind little reminders of what I didn’t want. But I hadn’t yet taken the time to get really clear on what I did want. I hadn’t dared to dream about the kind of love that would feel safe, healing, exciting, expansive. Until my lovely friend Amy told me about The Man List.

It was simple. Write down everything you want in a partner. Not just looks or surface-level traits, but the deep, soul-aligned stuff. You have to be really specific about what you do what. The way you want to feel. The life you want to build together. The kind of love that holds space and never asks you to shrink. Focusing on what I wanted taken me away from thinking about what I didn’t want and gave me space to value my worth as well.

Getting Clear and Calling It In
So I sat down. Pen in hand. Heart open. And I wrote.

I wrote about a man who saw me fully, inside and out. Who loved me in all my layers… light and shadow. A man who celebrated my healing journey instead of being intimidated by it. Someone playful and present. Emotionally intelligent. Honest. Safe.

And as the list grew, something strange and beautiful happened.

I realised… I became the person I wanted in a man, that much so that I started to attract the exact same in a man.

He wasn’t a new face waiting to appear out of nowhere. He was someone I already loved. Someone I had once thought I couldn’t live without, but also someone who had walked away from us, because at the time, we weren’t ready.

But maybe now, we were.

A Reunion Rooted in Growth
Our reconnection was instant fireworks or even some would say a fairytale ending. But it was also real. Raw. Honest.

We talked about everything… the pain, the growth, the love that never truly left. We were no longer the people who had once broken each other’s hearts. We had changed. Grown. Evolved.

And in that space of mutual healing, we found each other again. Not out of need or nostalgia, but out of choice. Out of clarity. Out of love that had matured.

What The Man List Really Gave Me
This wasn’t just about “manifesting a man.” It was about choosing myself. Naming what I deserved. And trusting that when I stood in my power and clarity, what was meant for me would either rise to meet me… or fall away with grace.

It turned out, the man who met me there… was him.

The father of my son. The one I once thought I weren’t able to live my life without. He didn’t become someone new… he simply became. And so did I.

To Anyone Calling in Love…
Get clear. Not just about the person, but about the feeling. About the energy you want to invite into your life. About who you are when you are loved the way you deserve.

And trust that the Universe always listens. Even if the answer surprises you.

Love has a funny way of circling back… when both hearts are ready to try again.