Embracing Loneliness: How I Found Power in Solitude

If you’d asked me a few years ago what I thought about being alone, I would’ve told you it was one of my biggest fears. Loneliness is often portrayed as something heavy, dark, and dangerous… and for many people, it really can be. It’s something that can break you, that can bring you to your knees. But for me? Loneliness became the most unexpected and powerful catalyst for my empowerment.

This blog is about that shift… about how I stopped seeing loneliness as something to fear and started seeing it as an opportunity to truly meet myself.

A Time of Separation and Self-Discovery

During the time when me and my son’s dad had separated, I found myself alone for the first time in a long time. And not just alone in the day-to-day, but really alone with myself… my thoughts, my emotions, my wounds, and my healing. At first, it was terrifying. I felt a deep void, a sense of disconnect from everything I thought I was supposed to be.

But over time, something incredible happened. I stopped running from the silence and started listening to it.

It was in this quiet that I felt a powerful shift of energy. It was like something deep inside of me woke up, a voice that whispered, “You are more than you think you are. You can do anything.”

And so I did.

Doing Things Alone and Loving It

One of the first things I did, almost on a whim, was book a solo hiking trip to the 3 Waterfalls Trail in Wales. I stayed in a cosy little B&B, ate out alone, and hiked through the stunning, healing power of nature… with just me, myself, and I. It was peaceful, freeing, and completely mine.

That trip unlocked something. I came home and booked a race car track day at 3 Sisters Circuit in Wigan. Yep, just me and a bunch of fast cars. I went alone, pushed myself completely out of my comfort zone, and felt like I could conquer the world.

Then came one of the biggest steps: flying a plane in Blackpool. I booked it by myself, drove there by myself, and climbed into the pilot seat of that tiny aircraft with my heart racing. It was terrifying… but I did it. And when we landed, I wasn’t the same person anymore. I felt limitless.

From Solo Dining to Soulful Living

After that, something clicked. I stopped waiting for people to join me to do the things I wanted to do. I started dining out on my own… not because I had to, but because I wanted to. One of the most memorable experiences was going to the Black Bull in Haworth. I ordered the most delicious Sunday lunch, had a glass of wine, and met incredible people along the way. That day, I felt vibrant, magnetic, and completely at peace with being on my own.

And I didn’t stop there.

A few months later, I booked a gig for myself… something I never thought I’d be able to do alone. Even though others ended up coming along, I had planned the entire experience just for me. I felt proud, empowered, and alive.

The Beauty of Reclaiming Yourself

Loneliness didn’t break me, it built me. I learned that being alone doesn’t have to be lonely. It can be the most intimate, transformative, and empowering experience you ever have. I stopped looking at solitude as a void and started seeing it as a mirror… a space to reconnect with who I truly am.

Through these moments, I redefined who I was. I became stronger, bolder, and more confident. I stopped waiting for life to happen to me and started choosing how I wanted to live. And in doing so, I attracted everything that aligned with that empowered version of myself.

To Anyone Who Feels Alone…

I see you. I’ve been there. And I want you to know that it’s okay to be scared of being alone but don’t let that fear stop you from discovering the incredible strength that’s inside of you.

Solitude is not a weakness. It’s not a punishment. It’s an invitation… a beautiful, sacred space for growth, healing, and empowerment. Trust yourself. Say yes to the things that light you up. Book the trip. Go to the gig. Fly the plane.

Your power is waiting for you in the quiet.